Episode 32 Aligning with The Great Conjunction In Aquarius

Episode 32 Aligning with The Great Conjunction In Aquarius

  In order to align with these wonderful energies that are coming your way. You don’t have to be in complete alignment with your integrity and your truth, to know all aspects of being in any given moment. You don’t have to drop everything. You don’t have to drop everything and heal everything.

You can align piece by piece moment by moment.

The Ancients channeled by Cara Wilde.

Normally, anything about the impact of planetary alignments (including Mercury Retrograde) usually get a bit of an eye- ball roll from me. I’m not a fan of anything that is prescriptive about my future, because I create it all. I do pay attention to the Equinoxes because I feel those energies myself. I can be very wary of spiritual truths that are outside of my direct experience. Sometimes that serves me, sometimes it works against me. 

Can you relate?

So why am I channeling on the alignment of The Great Conjunction in Aquarius in Dec 2020? Because I felt the energies first. 
Initially I thought it was simply the equinox energies starting, but there was a different quality to this year. A faster pace in someway.

Then a client and friend told me about the potency of this alignment. Not only were Jupiter and Saturn aligning to create the so called Christmas Star, but they were aligning in Aquarius. This hasn’t happened for several hundred years, the last time being the start of the shift into our Renaissance period. 

Astrologers are calling this the start of the Age of Aquarius

Now that, combined with what my body was feeling, got my attention. 

I’ve included a link to a more detailed article, written by people who are far more knowledgeable than me. But my sense of the energies was enough for me to channel and allow The Ancients to talk about the importance of this alignment and how we can make best use of the energies that this portal is helping us to experience. 

This podcast is the result of that ask, it’s about 11 mins of The Ancients talking about aligning with the energies and the experiences that we might have. It includes:

  • What these energies are offering us individually and collectively.
  • The most important quality to align with
  • how to set your expectations 
  • how to do all of the above with deep self compassion.

I hope you find it useful. And whether you engage in a ceremony to connect with the alignment or simply lightly hold the intention as you go about your day I hope you experience delight and deep satisfaction for yourself. 

In Love


Link to article

Podcast Transcription

Hello, and welcome to episode 32 of the way the sensitive podcast. This podcast is a solo by the ancients. It’s a recording of a channeling. I did a couple of weeks last week. the focus is on the great conjunction in Aquarius. It’s a planetary alignment. That’s happened on the 21st of December.

And. It’s something that I wanted their opinion on. And when I received the channeling. I thought it’d be useful to share it with all of you. And before I explain what the great conjunction is. Let me just give you the caveat that astrology is not my area of expertise. In fact, you might be like me and I tend to bounce off anything that is prescriptive or future predicting in any way. But when a client of mine first told me about this intense planetary alignment, that’s going on. It really made sense of a lot of different energies that I was feeling. And I am, like many of you, quite sensitive to mass consciousness.

I’m also quite sensitive to equinoxes. And it’s not unusual for me to start feeling the murmurings of those shifts well before an equinox. So I was really curious. And wanted to know more. And the basic understanding that I have so far, and I have a link in the show notes to a far more thorough and accurate article that describes this in a more helpful way.

But basically Saturn and Jupiter are aligning. Throughout December and coming together in what astrology is a call in the Christmas star. That on itself is powerful enough, but the fact that it’s all happening in Aquarius has not happened for several hundred years.

In fact, the last time that this alignment  happened we saw a cultural shift into what we call the Renaissance period, that we call in the West of renascence period. So this alignment is all about collective shifts. It’s about individual alignment. But also collective shifts too. And it can quite often. Signify. shifting cultural norms, cultural focuses. And kind of, that’s what we need. Right? That’s where.

We’ve kind of been heading in 2020. And obviously they’re not saying that this alignment will mean that that will happen. But more it’s the start of the unfolding of something new for us as a collective. So go and read the article if you’re interested in knowing more and wanting more details.

But the, if you can hear children screaming in the background they are playing with their friends online.

  I wanted to see what the A’s said because they, they always help me. Stay focused on my own truth. What’s in my own best interest. And their focus is always on. Joy for self and joy for all. me being a beneficial presence in my own life. And also. A beneficial presence in the world, because that is my desire. So I wanted to get their perspective.

And what they talk about in this podcast is:

the most important focus if we want to align with these new energies.

How to allow the eye alignment in a way that works for you. So whether you relate, you know, you’ve got the time, the energy, the capacity, and the desire to do a deep dive. They cover that briefly.

But also, if you just want to, you know, You haven’t got the capacity for much else at the minute or  the time or the inclination, they show you how to gently set an intention to allow life, to show you and reveal to you. What’s needed.

And they also cover what the Ancients themselves as a collective desire for us in our globe.

And finally a really interesting, I think, perspective on the fact that we’re not here to save the planet, but how we can be a beneficial presence on this earth.

It’s only a short recording. It’s about 11 minutes long. I’m very aware of people’s capacity being limited right now. What I will say is that as I’ve been talking to peers and friends and colleagues and clients of mine about these energies that are happening at the moment. They can be quite chaotic. So personally I’d be feeling this.

I ended up having  little small, tiny accident and so I needed to rest for a while and I took that as an opportunity to really do some deep dive in and routing out of limiting beliefs and patterns that were no longer serving me. And that felt really right and appropriate. and then I found out about these energies coming. So I like to think I’m ahead of the game, but you know, never know.

So. And then at the same, and then also I’ve been feeling just a light and airy and wonderful and delighted. And it’s easy for me to hold a steady stream of positive intention, loving manifestations towards myself, focus in on, as the A’s would say, being delighted with who I am.

And I’m not the only one that’s experiencing that contrast. So if you are, maybe listen to this and see if it affirms some of your own direct experience. And just to let you know, you’re not on your own, there’s plenty of us that are experiencing some, what can feel like chaotic contrast but with this underlying faith and sense that it’s all unfolding perfectly. It’s all right. You know, we can feel extremes of emotion, but kind of feel quite grounded and centered in it.

So if that’s you, you probably been affected by these energies and  your desires for self, even at an unconscious level, probably connected with this portal. And so I’d encourage you to listen more. I am putting the link in the show notes and sending it out to my newsletter about a.

Alignment that I am doing a process that I’m doing with the ancients, a call. On the 21st of December to help us to connect with these energies and to do a clearing on things that might be getting in the way. I am feeling my way into that. So that’s the only details that I’ve got at the moment. I know what my intention is and yeah, so.

Keep checking back or see the show notes for details of how to get involved in that, if that interests you. So I will leave you to The Ancients, bye for now. 

All right. All right. Greetings. It is a pleasure to be here with you on this day. So the channel wanted to speak to us regarding The Great Conjuntion, the  planetary alignment that is occurring and has started to occurred. Movement has begun  there is

a clarity available to you individually and collectively

with the alignment of these planets, that act as a portal of access.

so this energy that’s being streamed through this portal has always been available to you. And at the same time is also more accessible right now. We don’t want you to think that you’re limited by planetary alignments, for you are grander than that, but also we want you to make use of, and accelerate your expansion, your ability to enjoy life

through aligning and making the most of the energies that are available to you on any given day. So that’s why we’ve agreed to, to speak with you today regarding this alignment,

the most beneficial quality to any of you right now, in order for you to experience a life that you want to experience, achieve your goals, your dreams, your ambitions, to be the beneficial presence in the world that you all so desperately want to be. And to be part of the change that you wish to see in the world, collectively, the quality that is most important to that is your integrity.

Integrity is a quality that can be used to punish yourself. Whenever we mentioned integrity, most people think, where am I out of alignment with it? What have I done wrong? Your integrity is simply your truth in motion.

Your truth in motion.

How are you living your truth? How are you living in alignment with your truth? And isn’t that multifaceted?

Truth is an interesting concept.

The multifaceted nature of truth. Is that if you’re denying any aspect of self, any part of self you’re reducing the amount of life force energy that’s available to you in any given moment. If you’re suppressing some anger, if you’re ignoring some hurt.

if you’re withdrawing from your desires and your ambitions, that takes a lot of energy. To be who you are not as a collective whole takes a great amount of your creative life force energy to suppress.

And the fear is, if you allow all that which you suppress you will be banished from the tribe, rejected in some way. So, you know, by now in your journey with us, that we look to closing the gap between your condition, habitual self and your true, wonderful granduer, your true glorious nature. And that’s always going to be a work in  progress.

So in order to align with these wonderful energies that are coming your way. You don’t have to be in complete alignment with your integrity and your truth, to know all aspects of being in any given moment. You don’t have to drop everything. You don’t have to drop everything and heal everything.

You can align piece by piece moment by moment.


for the majority of you, it will be self judgment that keeps you out of that quality,

a repulsion of some aspects of yourself.

the desires that are not supposed to want, the thoughts that you’re not allowed to think

the identity that you desire for yourself, but it’s not, who you think you are,

that, all of that.

That journey of rediscovery of your own magnificence, your own

relationship with the fun of your personality, the fun of your positive ego, the fun of your character, the fun of, you yourself, the fun of being that, the sense of adventure and play and wonderment that you can experience in life, in your life. Helping people with art is our favorite thing to do. And so, yes, we are obviously interested in the mass evolution of all of your humanity, but we’re really interested in just you too. Your life.

Big, small, all of it. All of you is welcome. And to be in integrity, you need to welcome all aspects of you too, to know your values, your strengths, the parts that you reject.

So yes, it may require some tending to wounds and we just mean being tender with hurt, scared and vulnerable parts of you yourself,

helping them know that they are totally safe, utterly safe, in a universe where you are deeply loved. Already cherished, already championed. Already desired and wanted. Sources next best thought. An important part of the divine blueprint. Once you get that, know your worth, know that you’re here for an adventure in your own relationship with consciousness, there’s no holding you back.

You’re here to enjoy yourself and life. Not to save the planet. But in beautiful alignment with source energy and unconditional love, the truth of the nature of your reality is such, that when you are in deep enjoyment of self and celebrating your strengths, living with an open heart, you cannot help, but be a beneficial presence on this earth.

And some of you are driven to transform that into work that you offer into the world. And that you’re rewarded for through monetary exchange and that’s to be celebrated too.

How to align with the energies that are coming your way and already here how to  bask in the delight that is available? To allow

those energies into your life?    Set the intention to gently align

with that portal. Set the intention. Trust your integrity. Become a curious about your relationship with the quality of integrity and then let live show you.

let life show you where you are already in alignment with your integrity. Let life show you where your work is.

It doesn’t have to be a big effort to align with this portal. The intention is enough to connect with the stream of Aquarius.

Expect it to be gentle. Expect it to be playful, expect it to be soulful.

You may have some resistance come up. Life will show you  parts of self that you don’t think are acceptable. If things become bumpy for a while –  past old woundings come up.

Just see them as tenderness.

See that as tenderness, just areas where you feel a little tender.

It may feel dramatic , the contrast between the delight of the new and the tenderness of some of your past may throw you into confusion and seemed dramatic. The contrast may seem quite dramatic, but that only happens when you’re believing the past.

Everything is unfolding perfectly. Allow yourself, time to rest, to replenish, and also allow yourself time to adventure and celebrate.

be delighted with yourself.

you are more than enough and more than capable and you are loved. And in love and peace, for now, we bid you farewell.

Okay. So I hope you experienced something valuable for yourself from that recording. And that channel, then please do feel free to email me, cara@carawilde.com or leave comments on the podcast about how that impacted you, what your thoughts are. If you’ve got anything to add that you think might be beneficial for us, all.

And if you would like to join us on the collective call on the 21st to December, please do sign up in the box on the show notes. And hopefully I’ll see you then, but whatever, enjoy the energies and enjoy. Enjoy the 21st of December. May you know, that you’re always loved and may you always be held.

Bye for now. 

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The Way of the Sensitive. Love your Body, Lose the Weight.

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Cara :  hello everybody. And hello, Jane. Welcome to the podcast. 

Jane: Hello. Thanks  so much. 

Cara:  Well, thank you so much for being here. And I just want to start, I’ve already said some of this in the introduction, but. I want to start off just reading out some of the posts that I saw about your next, your, you know, next,  adventure in work that made me laugh out loud and made me want to get you as a guest.

So it’s really, when you talked about  your program, love your body, lose the weight, and you talked about a people identify as an emotional eater. I’m just going to read your words cos they crack me up, and I’m going to tell people why. So,” if you identify as an emotional eater,chances are you’re feeling pretty stressed by all the current talks about healthy weight, about all the health risks they mentioned, and about Boris Johnson’s plans to stop you eating unhealthy foods and start getting you into shape.

Chances are you’ve actually turned to the “treat cupboard”, as a result of all that talk.  Chances are, you’ve actually put on some weight during lockdown because of the stress of the situation, but, and it’s a big but – my answer was “Yes Mine iis”!. And you’re also probably completely fed up of being held hostage by food and not having the healthy body that you want.

So there’s more to that, but that was the bit when I thought  I need Jane on my podcast, because you have such a fun approach to this. It can be a really, really well, it is a really, really tricky and sensitive subject. And. I recognize that when I read it and laugh so much, it’s because my unconscious mind was saying, get yourself on this program.

Um, and so that resonated with it at a certain level, but also because. That kind of fun approach that you have to everything or that sense of adventure that you bring to everything that I think is quite unique when we look at the relationship between our bodies and , our weight , but also the, so it’s the combination of that playful, adventurous combined with that real deep compassion that I feel that you have .You know, anybody that’s going through a tricky relationship with food and emotional eating.

So that’s why you’re here. And I’m really glad you said yes. So I would just wondered if you’d start off by talking a little bit about what you consider emotionally eating to be well, how to recognize yourself. This is a really big question. 

Jane: It’s a really interesting question because there might be people who are listening right now, who don’t even know why they eat at all.

So there are several layers to this. So from my perspective, emotional eating is,basically a part of you dealing with emotions that you don’t really want to deal with or feel by soothing you through food. So there might’ve been an experience you had in your life where you felt a feeling and you didn’t like it, and you didn’t have the strategies at that time to self sooth, or you may not have had the capacity to hold that emotion steady, to sit with it and learn from it.

And let it go. So when we don’t have any strategies, the unconscious mind say like, well, what is the best thing I can do here? And often in those situations for emotionally is the best thing was usually cake. That’s a good one. Pringles I can tell you for a fact that isn’t an excellent one. And sometimes, and I see this on Facebook a lot now, wine.

Cara :  Hmm,

Jane:  accepting that strategy. You consciously have this awareness that, Oh, it works. I feel better. I might not feel better forever but for the moment. I don’t have to feel the feeling that I was feeling, and this is temporarily worked  and it might be, then that you have a few more tricky situations in life where you still haven’t developed the strategy because you let

that unconscious part of yourself handle it. So your unconscious mind says, well look, here she goes again. And she doesn’t know what she’s doing. She doesn’t want to feel the feeling. So I’ll tell you what we’ll do, what we’ll give you four. Cause she seemed to quite like it. So boom cake Pringles. Wine.

And then the unconscious mind says, do you know what this seems to be working so well for her that we can handle those emotions before they even get on her conscious radar. So she will get the urge to have, cake or Pringles or wine and she wont have any inkling on why it’s happening but what  we’ll be doing is dealing with the emotion before it hits the fan

 and that is why some people will say, yeah, I can consciously, I’ve got a conscious awareness that there are some triggers where I just have this urge to like basically eat the whole house and that pattern generalizes out. So it’s not just like bad emotions. It gets to the point where like, you feel happy, you eat, you feel sad, you eat any emotion that appears on the radar will call for food.

And that be some people who genuinely can say. Do you know what  I don’t think I am an emotional eater. I just really just want to eat. And that’s not because they’re not an emotional eater. It’s because that pattern has become so brilliant that the strategy has become so well refined it does it without any conscious

mediation, any intervention whatsoever. And that’s for me, what emotional eating is. It’s not, it doesn’t have to be a permanent fixture, but you know, people are often hard on themselves because they say, well, why am I doing this? Well, they were doing it for a very good reason at the time. It’s usually because they didn’t have a more effective strategy.

And of course, as we get older, you know, we do learn that life. Isn’t completely perfect. And we have to develop strategies other than kind of, um, you know, head in the sand strategies and we do manage that. But if we’ve got a strategy that’s like ticking over and we actually have lost touch with what is real drive is all about.

Then the longer we leave it, the more automatic it becomes. And, you know, we can either jump in there and disconnect that strategic wiring and build something new in. And sometimes, actually the wiring will burn itself out naturally as we develop more responsibility for our own lives, some people naturally, if you like fuse their own systems, so some people will actually emerge from it intact.

So, right. So there’s a few things there. First of all, is what I, what I love about your point of view and have, since I met you, is how you see all parts of us as a friend, that’s trying to help us achieve a desired outcome rather than it’s something that we’re doing that’s bad behavior or negative behavior or something.

Um, but then also there was something about what you said towards the end about, um, How, if it can burn that patterning can, that wiring can burn itself out. If we, for example, want to take responsibility in a different way. So how do you see that as friendly? Compared to what the reaction we might be having because Boris Johnson, or if some of my listeners are outside the UK or some other authority is saying, “you need to take care of yourself so that you don’t get ill: – , there’s a, like a different voice there.

  Jane: the impact of the voice that generates the emotions that the pattern has to deal with. So if, so a lot of the rhetoric now will induce shame and I can even feel it now in myself. It’s a very, very powerful emotion. No one likes to feel shame. So, boom. It says like you better double the pringles man!!!

And know, there is no one on Earth who is, who is not comfortable with their weight, who doesn’t know everything there is to know about dieting. They  know the health risks. They know it all. So if someone says, Oh, you know, this is a health risk,that’s not new information. All that does is generate the shame.

And when I’m talking about burning the pattern out….. because human beings are really, really brilliant and very clever. So if they get one pattern and it works, it’ll generalize itself out. So that’s why,handle  one emotion handle a bad emotion with food, can generalize out to handle all emotions with food. Now that’s not particularly great. But if, if in another part ofyou’re liife you start

facing things head on or viewing your own behaviors in a different way, then that generalizes out. And that can often undermine old un-useful patterns. So there are lots of ways in, um, but my, I suppose my view is what I’m seeing right now. Cause obviously. Everybody who’s anybody who helps people to develop a healthier relationship with body and there food,

they’re saying, look, I can help you with this. Yeah. Some of the messages, like for me, it’s totally shocking. There’s one, right? Right now called,  ” kill the emotional eating demon” 

Cara: oh my God. 

Jane: Now as if that demon wasn’t something other than you, I’m asking like newsflash –  that’s you man, and that isn’t  a demon,

that’s a part of you that has been serving you in the best way it can for however long you’ve been running this pattern. That demon doesn’t need killing that demon needs thanking for what hes done and retiring into a nice reitrment home, somewhere in your body. Um, once that it understands you understand what it’s been trying to do for you, that’s not a demon at all and  and, um, 

 So if you said, gosh, you know, you got to whip yourself, into shape you’ve got, you know, you’ve got to work yourself to the bone,  these aren’t messages that part of you wants to hear. So that’s that dichotomy between wanting, knowing, and wanting to be a healthy weight. And then the rhetoric about us being hard on yourself, having self control.

“You just haven’t got enough self control”, but it’s not self control, there’s a part of you that is in control. It’s saying I’m  brilliant at running this pattern, and I’m going to do it because you know what, you’re not doing it. So I’ll do it for you”. So for me, it’s about stopping and relating to that part, that some people are calling a demon.

and say, well what is it you’re really trying to do thats actually, a really good thing. What’s your purpose in behaving in this way? And do you know? I think there might be some I can do for you that will satisfy  that purpose so that I could be free of that part of you thats running the pattern but I’m not going to push you away. That’s the problem. As soon as you start saying, there’s a  part of me, I don’t like this demon, you know, I dont want that. So you immediately set up a tension, there’s a lot of energy controlling that, keeping it away from you. You’re separating yourself from yourself. And part of the issue of not being able to, to respond to your appetite in a healthy  way is that you’re disconnected from the part of you that

knows when it’s hungry, knows when it’s full. You’re running a pattern of dissociation. So the last thing you want to do is say, you know, “you demon gout in my life,. It’s like,” Hey,I dont think you are a demon actually,  you’re a part of me that I kept at arm’s length for years. And it’s about time you came in from the cold and I nourished you  in the way you’ve been asking for, for all these years, I just like ignored because I’ve been too busy, eating the Pringles!!!”

Cara : that’s really genius. 

Jane: For me that’s the way to go. Its wholeness. Uh, it’s more resilient, um, it’s acceptance. And people say “oh self acceptance” and  this is not saying I’m fat. and  I’m okay with that. If you’re genuinely okay with that, that’s absolutely fine. But if you’re saying look, um, I really want to sort this out and  I know that there’s part of me doing this and I’m fed up of beating that part of me up.

Yeah. And you’ll find the part of you that has that appetie,  that appetite will change once you start relating to it in an adult way. I mean, you wouldn’t treat your children like it, you wouldn’t treat your coworkers like it, you wouldn’t treat your pet like it. So why do you treat yourself? Like it.

Cara:  I think the promise of the diet culture and where you can is like, you can get to your goal really quickly if you just pull yourself together. it’s that false promise of those fast results. I know what your big on is that sustainable practice that gives you a lon g lasting results.

Jane:  It made me smile there because you are literally pulling yourself together. You’re pulling all the parts of you and you’re saying like, you know, we’re now we’re a team, we’re acting like we’re a team and see all those rules and regulations? Well, there are rules and regulations inside your body that will run your system in a healthy way if you create conditions for that to happen. 

And if you’ll start laying on a whole new set of rules, like eat at this time or no carbs at that time or  you know, Keto only, or high intensity only. Um, then you’re, you’re layering in a whole new set of problems. So as far as I’m concerned, there are some like real, I think, healthy messages coming out from the likes, from unlikely sources, I think from the likes of Ross Edgley.

I know you are, I’m a bit of a fan of Ross  –  that’s the guy who wrote the book, The Worlds Fittest and he swam around Britain? .He talks about how, um, they’re now doing research to show that food interacts with our bodies in an individual way. If that is the case, then we have a responsibility or we have the opportunity to find things that work for us, like taking our time by experimenting and by working out what feels right for us. 

Rather than following these quick fix rules, rules in general, you know, so if it works for you, and it’s sustainable in the long term, and it’s good for your overall health and you feel okay and it doesn’t feel like a bind, but it feels like, you know, not reward, but it’s kind of like how you would treat your favorite pet, your dog.

You feed them, you look after them, it walks and because that’s what they love. Um, even so today’s lashing down with rain. Sparky is not a huge fan of the rain though he’s a huge fan of  walking.


This is your dog that just in case people think they’re talking about your husband. 

Jane: Yeah. Well, yeah. Well that’s another show.

 So I know that he’s a terrier and he loves going out walking, but he doesn’t like the rain, but I encourage him out the door with a little tug to get him over the line. You have to do that for your own body to move.

 You know, your body is built to eat. So one of the problems  for many of this, these whole like, eat nothing before you exercise, especially if you’re a woman, you know, currently in her prime, like around the menopause, then that creates like a huge, um, stress inside the body. So you then generate cortisol, which will give you the old menopausal belly and, you know, can affect your metabolism.

So many of us don’t actually eat and often have to learn to eat up because of years of dieting, you know, um, downregulated our metabolism. So we have to take the time to say, look, I’ve been living in this house for whatever it is. 30, 40, 50 odd years. 

You know, I might have done a bit of DIY, a few new ones windows in, but do you know what?  I haven’t looked in the boiler. Oh, I’ve been live with this boiler. It’s on its last legs. I’ve not even opened the boiler cupboard, you know, I haven’t looked at the plumbing or all that kind of stuff. And can’t move house. That’s it. In this model, you cannot move house.

You’re staying in that house, whether you like it or not, so you might as well like it, make it efficient. You might as well make it comfortable, you might as well make it a place you really like to be, and stay-cationing for the foreseeable future.

Cara:  For anybody that’s been through the diet like cycle, the way that you’re describing feels like Nirvana and a miracle  and  probably to some people not possible. And also, um, which it clearly is, but I can imagine some people thinking is that even possible to have that relationship with food and my body to feel that much peace?  But also then the panic that comes up about. Letting go of all those rules. And the panic that induces.

And I think that’s primarily because diet teaches you to not trust your body. And the whole culture that we’re living in is you can notnot unleash your  body. You cannot be trusted with food. You cannot be trusted to moderate. You cannot be trusted. And I know the actual process of just, I was reading a study a while ago, where they taken a group of men that had never had a problem with eating at all.

Put them on a diet and then monitor them afterwards and they had huge issues with eating because just, that one act of one diet had created an obsession around food. 

Jane: Yes. Yeah. And I think there’s also something to do with our, you know, personality types of perfectionist, completer- finishes, um, people who like to follow rules and then, because it feels good that’s success.

If I do this, I’ll give myself a big tick. It’s like sports watches, sports watches. The good side of them is, you know, you get a tick. A four when you’ve done your 10,000 steps. And I, even though I’ve been physically active very long time, I’ve only recently started wearing a sports watch so that I can track for some of the training I’m doing.

I wasn’t even looking at this 10,000 steps. Um, and I do a lot, so like I would maybe cycle 35 miles and run 6 miles in a day and then decent weights. It’s quite a lot of steps and I was finind that for the cycling, cycling or swimming. it hardly gives you any ticks. And I was noticing that I wasn’t getting my tick and I was really getting anxious about getting a tick to say that I’d done 10,000 steps, even though I’ve done all this exercise.

Now the positive side of that is they know that these wearables actually get people to be active because people like to get the tech and the downside is if you’re an obsessive, you will go for the tech, no matter what it costs and you will keep going for the cost. So I think what you say abou  the rules, paradigm

it’s very hard to break out of a rule paradigm if you like rules. And even if it hasn’t worked for you because you get the hit from following the rules, not necessarily the outcome, but just to know that you followed the rules and if you lived in a paradigm, even if it hasn’t worked, you know how that operates.

Yeah. Step out of that paradigm or go beyond the boundary wall. So. You may have lived in a deighting paradigm for years and years, you might have operated in cycles and think you’ve stepped outside it. You haven’t stepped outside, you  just had a break from it, but you still got it on the back bubbling away on the back hob . 

And then the minute you think, Oh, you know, it’s like in a relationship. The minute you say I’m going to leave. What happens is the other half starts being nice, you know, Oh, I really love you. Don’t leave me. And then you say, Oh, I’m leaving. And then they get rough. Like they, maybe they get rough. And they say, right, you’re not leaving. They start banging the doors and it gets really, really uncomfortable.

And then you don’t know what to do. And that is you up against the boundary of your paradigm, the way you, so it does take, I agree, an act of courage to say, actually, I am breaking out. I’m going, I’m going beyond this particular boundary. I don’t know what’s on the other side, but what I do know is on the other side is everything that is not this.

So the solution is always on the other side of the boundary, how you’re living isn’t within that particular paradigm. And there is a leap of faith required, especially if you have to, um, rely on yourself. 

And I think that’s where any program that teaches you-  first of all that your body is a brilliant system.

So people say “I  can’t do this. Can’t do this. I don’t think I can do it.” I think, look, you’re sitting there right now. Guess what’s happening. You automatically breathing without thinking about it. Your Pineal gland is deciding how tired you should be, how near your bedtime is  it. Your hair is growing itself. By Itself without you even thinking about  ityour body is completely brilliant!

And you’re telling me. It doesn’t know when it’s hungry and it doesn’t know when he’s had enough. Well, it does. And it’s sending you signals all the time. You’re just out of touch with the signals. Now, as we get older, those signals do tend to get quiet anyway, but it is possible to get in touch with your natural rules.

Your body has its own system, which when it’s inbalance works perfectly, you may have been pushing it out balance for a couple of years by dieting or doing things that are not supportive of your, you know, your total ecology or total health, but it is possible. And you only see that when you’re willing to, you can’t have your foot in both camps.

That’s the problem.You can’t leave and be staying but many people we know from a relationship point of view, go back and forth for years and then finally saying that’s  it,I’m leavingAnd I did.And it’s the best thinkg I did but I had to learn how to be by myself. And then I had to learn how to make my own company. And this is, this is no different only that it  is simpler than you think.

 Epecially if, theemotional drive to eat has gone. So this is another way, way in, I suppose, is if there’s the emotional drivers gone. So you don’t want to sit there starving having this emotional starvation thinking, where are the Pringles, where are the Pringles?

It is honestly, I can speak from experience as a recovered emotional eater. It’s like, uh, you know, at night when the fridge goes on here, that allows the fridge. And for me, what happened for me, it’s like, literally I had like this internal fridge it’s vibration, which is like emotional pattern just went, boom.

What is that quietness inside? That’s the emotions gone. And then once that’s out of the way, you begin to hear the signals, you might have to experiment in the wild, but your hunger is completely different. So we know, for example, that emotional hunger has a role to it. It’s not there one minute and the next minute roar! you’re completely starving.

That’s not how physiological hunger works. Physiological hunger creeps up on you. So you you’re actually living in a completely different world. So you can’t compare one thing with the other. It just has to be you prepared to go there. And, that’s about readiness, you know? Are, you ready? 

Cara: That’s what I was going to ask you next.

Actually, I don’t know. I don’t know whether there is an answer to this question or what it is, but how will people know if they are ready to step out to take that leap of faith? Is there something that, you know, if people are listening to this and certain things are happening in their life, or they’ve got certain thoughts, is there anything that they could recognize?

It’s like, I, I think this is I’m ready to take the faith leap. 

Jane: Yeah. I mean, there are lots of ways of answering that question, but for me, I think one of the reasons that I’m running this program right now, now a lot of other people, people who work in my field are running, you know, their own versions of different programs is that emotional eating pattern will be in the room right now.  You’ll know yourself from  therapeutic work. One of  the issues you have is people will  have a problem or they might have a digital problem. So on off switch, so dieting, is usually a digital behavior. You’re either on the wagon or you’re off the wagon.

What will happen is the people will say, Oh, so I’ve decided I’m going to, um, go on this program, but I’m not going to go on it until I’ve been on a diet for a while, and I’m not going to go until I’ve lost four stone and then I’ll be ready to go. So they’re running the other half of the pattern. The piece of work with you, the good girl is in the room.

Not the demon, that’s been quite for a while, but she’s not gone. Not that part of you. So for me, if you are right in it! Like, you know, Pringles, Pringles all over the floor, cake coming out of the fridge, honestly, you know, stuffing in your face, having a frenzy. Feeling, you know, that you can’t even get, and there’ll be something in this situation now where they feel shamed and they feel like they can’t get the food in actually quick enough.

And the emotions are leaking out. Perfect timing, because you will be in the room with the part of you who is desperate to help you.

Cara:  Yeah, you really like you’re up close and personal. It’s really just, they’re waiting for your attention. That’s gorgeous. I like that. 

Jane: It’s presenting itsef for resolution, it’s the pattern is saying  do something and if you don’t do something, all I can do right now is eat. Cause that’s the only thing I know to do to soothe you, but there’s only so much I can eat and that’s what happens. So. People might say, well, I’m going to have to drink. I’m gonna have to smoke. I’m going to have to buy whatever it is. Um, and if you, if you’re at that point where you think, Oh yeah, I’ve just had enough physically.

And that’s how it got for me. This is hard work, maintaining my weight. I physically can’t eat any more. That’s when I thought right let’s  do this, you know, I knew that it was a part of me that was trying to do a good thing for me. And it’s no, so it’s not just that your appetite changes, it is also developing strategies then.

So at the moment, Um, if people haven’t developed strategies, other than eating, it’s almost like being a child. So we’re as if we’re a child we fall over. Um, we learned that, okay, if you fall over, you hurt yourself, but that pain does go away or you can put cream on it or worst case,  if you’ve broken your neck, you plaster it, but it will actually repair.

If you have never done anything other than eat, you don’t know what to do, whatever emotion comes up. So there’s two parts is one is like, yeah, let your system balance itself. Be still going to have emotions. I mean, the emotions aren’t going to go away. It’s like, okay, so you can have a feeling. Can yon um, develop the expansiveness, to contain that feeling to sit with that  feeling, to learn what the purpose of that feeling is to feel it, to let it go?

Can you develop other self soothing strategies? You know, how prepared are you to live life fully? I mean, cause that’s having all the emotions and if people say, Oh, you’re right, I just want to feel the good things I would like to be easy. And I’ll say, I want life. Well, mine, this is my philosophy. I want life to be life and I want to life it fully  and on the spectrum of all feelings, you know, I want to be resilient enough. And I mean that in a positive way, not only in being resilient, but Whoa, I’m going to feel these feelings because they are part of the richness of who I am as a person I’m being human. That’s how it is. 

I think the biggest thing for me recently has been like my son leaving home and like, he’s kind of been preparing for it, um, emotionally. Um, but you know, it’s like being open to the experience. I’m not going to close myself off, so I don’t feel the feelings, but actually yes, there was some sadness and it marked  you know, the move, it coincided, you know, with menopause and moving on to the next phase of my life.

But there was some beauty and some real, like, you know, I’ve grown a child and now that child is become a man and he’s like doing his own thing. And it’s a really brilliant thing and I can still feel the, the, the strings of motherhood. Like I still feel that connection. And the sadness that goes with time moving on, but yeah, that’s life

yeah. Yeah.

Cara:  And I suppose that leads me to another question for, I think certainly conversations that I’m having at the moment, certainly because of the, um, you know, the situation with COVID. that whole transition of perimenopause to menopause and then there’s the cultural.

Aspect of kind of almost like women should kind of give up at that point, like physically, physically, you know, with our physical bodies at that point, like things get harder. And, and then that combined with I’m hearing a lot of people kind of, um, a bit. Regretful about some of the choices that made and living an unlived  kind of life and, um, and, and dealing with that.

And I think what I’m noticing is there’s like a crossroads between, and people get to a decision point of. Um, I guess my name is right. Will any regrets or sadness that I’ve had about the past shows me what I want to embrace about the future and I’m going for it more. Um, there’s that element. And then there’s, I’m kind of wanting to catch the people that are kind of going well  the, is there any point and I might as well just give up and then say get all the Pringles out.

Jane: Yeah. Yeah. And I think, um, I, because I was very curious, I suppose, um, going through the veil, I suppose, because my mind is like, it is a Rite of passage and I suppose we’re very lucky. So I did make some decisions. About how  I wanted this part of my life to be, so I was very comfortable with myself before the menopause and I decided I’m going to be so comfortable with myself that I’m going to make some changes now.

So, um, I’m going to let my hair go gray. That was the first thing I didn’t want to signal actually, as I am getting older and I feel completely okay about getting older, I don’t wear makeup and I’ve never worn makeup. I thought I’m not going to hide the wrinkles. I’m just going to wait and see what happens.

And I was actually pleasantly surprised and I think it’s very, very individual. So I was very lucky. I didn’t have any hot flushes. Yeah, I didn’t put any weight on, um, in fact, a loss of weight. Um, and I think I probably had some menopausal rage, but my husband

that’s all wrong. He so wrong. Oh yeah. That was probably a bit of the old rage, but he was wrong. So for me, a lot of people talk about. This idea that once you go through that veil and for some people, it can be years going through it. So I had a hormone test just to check where I was, cause I just didn’t know.

Um, and there had been years since I’ve had a period where I had a coil fitted, you might not have periods and I test and they said, well, we can tell you you’re in the menopause now. And we can tell you that in a year from this , you’ll be through the other side, but we can’t tell you where in that year you are.

And that was about four years ago. So I’m definitely out of the other side. And so I think what I have noticed from the experience is that, um, People talk about being invisible and that it is different, I suppose, because I’m paying attention to people in a different way. I didn’t ever court male attention, but I would say I don’t give a damn now really don’t give a damn.

And what my hair looks like and more I look like I don’t care what they think and I’m completely comfortable. And I put all my energy into living and, you know, people say, Oh, 50 is .too late . Is the new 30, as far as I’m concerned, it’s like, Oh, you know, it really actually riles me when you see these programs for the over 50 and being marketed to by saga holidays, you know, um, some of the fittest, strongest women I know are in there, forties, fifties, and sixties.

So I took up power lifting. I’ve taken up triathlon, I’ve had a go at all these things you shouldn’t be able to do, or society says, Oh, you know, that’s going to be hard because you’re older, but you know, It’s about finding something that makes you feel alive, that is in alignment with who you are. And so for me, anything that’s adventurous, I’ll give a go.

I mean, they’re all some true physiological facts. And the truth is it’s a, when we go through the menopause and our hormonal environment changes. Um, muscle mass starts to decrease any form muscle mass starts to decrease, our metabolism reduces, which means is even if we eat the same amount of food, we will actually start to put weight.

Yeah. And when we don’t get the, um, Homeowner new protections that we did in the past. So it is true that, you know, if you, for  whatever reason, and I think if you want to be healthy, and in your later life  your body’s as strong as it tanks, that’s ideal. If you want to live a long and active life for me, that’s ideal.

And so I will. You know, people will talk about this ideal form and, you know, having the models, the models, body when you’re 50 or 60 or 70 or whatever. So for me, it’s not about the form, it’s about the function. So I want my body to do things for me. And because I wanted to do things for me, then I might exercise.

I might lift weights because I want to. So I want to get good at swimming. And so I’ll lift the weights or I’ll do pullups because that’ll make me ,that will help help my max and also crease my metabolism. So I eat 5,000 calories a day and weights and  because I’m doing a lot of aerobic exercises because I’m doing weights and you don’t really have to do very much, um, to get the results.

Function for me, it’s more important than form –  than a way you look but here’s the magic –  function proceeds form. If you start the behaviour because you  want to be healthy and support your body, you will get a six pack you fast, you know, it just appears. And if you fuel yourself for function, you will start to look different because the fuel, your body needs to do those particular things.

Unfortunately. News Flash. It’s not Pringles!. You start becoming hungry for different things, nutritionally speaking, because you’re hungry in the life for something new. And I haven’t met anybody who’s at this stage in their life who hasn’t got a hunger for thinking like I’m going to do things for me.

I wand whether it’s fitness, whether it’s my relationships, whether it’s my finances, whether it’s my whole life, I’m going to say right, this is me, literally being me. Look what happens when you truly are in touch with the whole of you demons and all. 

Cara: That’s brilliant. That’s brilliant. 

Jane: So that demon, you can put to work in new ways.

Like I’ve got the demon , in the water with me scaring off the other demons in the water. So  I posted about being worried about swimming in the water because I thought it was like full of like Krakens and  massive octopus, . They’re only out to sock me  and leave everybody else alive. Yeah.

When you call your own personal demon, I mean, you can use that scare off all the other demons in the water. 

Cara: See, and that’s what I love about you and your attitude towards adventure as well. Because we, we exchanged about that on Facebook this morning, didn’t we about the swimming and the fear. Um, and so I, I have the ocean right down the road and I go swimming and I was up to my waist in seaweed  accidentally the other day. 

Oh my God. Freaks me out. Bu I had to say “the underworld is safe,, the underworld is safe!”  But I do get scared by, um, the fact that we’ve got strong tides and currents. And so yeah, my head, I have the thought, Oh, because I have that fear. It’s not for me. Right. Yeah. And then you posted, like, I’ve seen and watched you transform your, you know, your different adventures that you’ve done and really inspiring.

And then you shared that you have that fear and then you’ve overcome it. Aw, damn. Yes. Just because I have the fearful thought doesnt mean to say I don’t belong there. I can do, you can talk yourself out of where you think you belong .

Jane: It’s that boundary, you bump up against the boundary and then you’re afraid you’re fearful of the fear.  But all you need to do, just keep bumping up against that boundary, bump up against it bump up. So keep going. in the sea and and you don’t even have to go all the way. You might just swim for five minutes. Yeah. And then what I found is like one day I  literally got  in the sea and I swam 2k.

And that was it. It was an incredible leap. I’d been swimming in the Lake and that’s not so bad, but there are lots of weeds in the Lake, but I got used to the weeds and how they felt on my body. And I’ve been swimming in a rock pool, and that was quite smart and also quite safe, but there were, see, we did that, but I hadn’t done this big leap into the sea.

Then I got in there. I thought, hang on a minute. That fear has gone. And the fear has gone it’s because I spent so much time in that area of fear. That is literally. Dissipated. And it’s not, there sould be respect for the sea. I think, you know, you’ve got to learn about riptides, how to swim out of how to recognize strong currents that you, you know, it’s, it’s still the sea, it’s a wild place,  you need a tow float, all that kind of stuff.  But you in the sea, it’s totally possible. 

Cara: Yeah, which is the unknown around stepping out of diets and into just a new relationship with food that you’ve just talked about. Clearly, you know, when the companionship of working with other people that are doing it at the same time and community is really, really important.

Jane: It is and that they know actually that if you do try to make change on your own, it’s much harder than making that change in a group it’s more likely to be sustainable and you’re more likely to relax into engaging with it because you’re seeing other people go there first. 

Cara: Yeah. And just like, we’ve talked, you know, you normalized my fear for me and  I have reached out to a community that I know do ocean swimming,and I’m waiting to hear back from them straight away. I could take action. and the other thing is just without going too much into my journey, that will bore everybody. Who’s listening to us, but even just listening to you, I’ve been able to recognize deeper what’s happening with my own relationship with, um, Exercise it’s been changing.

So a few years ago I dropped out of runnin and I dropped out of CrossFit. That was when he became a single parent. So time was like, Whoa. And it was like, my needs were the easiest ones to knock off the, to do list. Which I think women need to really pay attention to. That’s not okay. Um, but I didn’t even notice I was doing it at the time, but then I was also experiencing some adrenal fatigue and I was really struggling.

My body doing weights probably wasn’t the right thing for me. Yeah. I fell crap about just walking the shame came. Yeah. Because I’m used to like lifting weights and so, um, Like our bodies need things at different, different things at different times. And we need to listen to that, you know, like not just ignore that fear of, Oh, I’m really tired.

And I don’t know why, you know, pay attention to the body signals. But then also I went out, this was what got me really back into thinking about my relationship with exercise for fun is I was doing some rock climbing on the cliffs down at the bottom, and I couldn’t lift myself with the same confidence

that I knew was possibly my body. And I just thought, Oh no, I want to do something about that. So that’s that function thing that you were talking about rather than just how we look and being presentable and, yeah. So I suppose the final question before we let people know about where they can get into it through the you, but the final question I have for you is, um, What do you, what do you think that everybody’s body would want them to know?

 If it could speak, what do you think you might want them to know?

Jane:  I would say that your body is definitely sitting there right now. Or whatever you’re doing. And it is saying to you several things, not just one thing, first of all, it is saying, and this is a true fact. I am on your side. Even if it doesn’t look like that right now.

It’s also saying I’ve got top skills, man. And you dont, even you don’t even realize that. So the thing I was talking about, you know, regulating your breathing, you know, it’s got hormones, grelin like the growling hormone  lets you know, when you’re hungry and leptin that lets, you know, when you’re full, it’s got all the kit.

Its the top spec, you’re only using it, you’re only using the steering wheel. You’re not using the rest of the spec. Okay. It’s also saying I really, really want to be with you. Don’t push me away. Just let me back in and you know, let’s make this relationship work. And finally, uh, I am more brilliant than you could possibly,

you know, more brilliant than any set of diet rules or any diet guru, any diet book, more brilliant  than,all of that.

Cara: Wow And that’s just making me the thing that’s coming up in my mind is I’ve already got the Porsche, I just don’t  know it yet.

 Jane: Yeah. Yeah, exactly. It’s all like going to antiques roadshow, I mean, bowl up there with your body and you think, Oh, it’s a complete banger.

And then they knocked it down a bit and they look at the, um, whatever it is, the vehicle registration. Yeah.

It’s worth millions. 

Cara :Okay. So, so I’m imagining  thatthe people that are just really, really enthusiastic about knowing more cause your program goes live just in a few weeks. 

Jane:  it’s on Saturday, the 12th of September. So the way I’m doing it, the first time I’m doing it via zoom and I’ve limited it to 20 places and that way.

People get the full attention, but there’s also space to sit back and learn from other people. And it’s going to be a one day intensive and then a 12 week followup. So there’s a private Facebook group for people to interact. And then once a week on a Thursday evening, there’s a live zoom call where we can catch up with each other, but also do a piece of work.

So if you, like you said, three months, program. So it actually finishes, um, the official finishes Friday, the 4th of December. 

Cara: Yeah. Right. So I just, all this in the, in the show notes, but I want to swing, sing this from the rooftops, because I think people are getting incredible value with the program that you’re offering.

And I speak like that from somebody who has been a participant and will be there. You know, if you’re going to join, I’ll see you in there if you’re listening. Um, but on the previous times when I’ve done work with you and Ben the workshop, I remember two things that really stand out to me, Jane. Right? So remember just experiencing this, we’ll have a workshop that you did and just this really.

Really good time that I had. Um, but then coming home and just feeling the most connected to my body I’d ever felt and was hearing new things, makes me fill up now thinking about it. And also the coaching session with me. And I was just like, I can’t wear shorts until I’ve got thin thighs. And then by the time we’d finished, I found myself at the school gates of all places with a pair of shorts on.

So like transformation, I’m just really excited. Um, and if there’s only 20 places, I would really encourage people to, you know, jump on really quickly. So I’ll pull all that in the show notes. Um, and that’s, I mean, I could talk to you about this stuff all day and we could just keep going and keep going and keep going.

But unless there’s anything else that you want to say, I think it’s a wrap for today. 

Jane: Yeah. So it’s, you know, we’ve more or less covered it. So, um, I’d like to suppose say about the program. It is very practical, so I’m like, you know, there’s a little bit of set up on the Saturday morning, but then we are going to be working through number of processes to, um, resolve the emotions that are at play.

Uh, when you’re hungry and then once those emotions have been resolved is to develop strategies, to live, to live life. Whether those emotions are present or not in, you know, with equilibrium and, um, being fully present and engaged. Yeah, so we get going straight away and there’s a group in the community and 12 week support.

And it’s not a diet. So there won’t be any like, eat this or dont eat that it’s not a diet. This is, this is, this is what’s driving your hunger, understanding what’s driving your hunger and, um, not to do with. Pringles. Yeah. Or inhaling pizzas, which is, yeah. All right. Well, thank you so, so much for doing this.

Yeah, you too. All right. Bye. For now.

The Ancients talk about navigating the time of  Covid-19

The Ancients talk about navigating the time of Covid-19

Hey there,

Something a little different for you today.

This is the final episode of The way of the Sensitive podcast because the next episode will be under a new name in a slightly different format which I’m really excited about sharing with you real soon.

This episode is totally taken over by The Ancients.

Up until now, I’ve not channelled directly for the public about Covid-19. Guidance from them has largely been for my personal use, close friends and for private client sessions. They did offer a free process a few weeks ago, you can access here if you missed it. 

But, sharing a channeling from them as a kinda bridge episode from the old podcast to the new format felt appropriate.

In this channeling (set to music) they talk to:

  • Feelings and emotions you might be feeling right now and why.
  • How to navigate this time with self-compassion
  • How to soothe yourself
  • What questions might be useful for reflection
  • The availbility of an increase in focus and a profound sense of the sacredness of life.

I’ve set it to gentle music and have this idea that you might listen to it whilst on your one health outing/walk.

Don’t try hard to hear it all, make sense of it all….just let the words that want to gain your attention do their work and trust that you’ll hear what you need to and the rest will come round again if you need them.

Notice your body’s reaction to their words, what expands you, feels right to you and want you learn more about.

Rest easy and well into this channeling and all the energy of compassion that it transmits.

I hope that you are safe and well and that this channeling offers you support, soothing and inspiration.

In Love Cara

The Way of the Sensitive ` Episode 29 The Embodied Empath

The Way of the Sensitive ` Episode 29 The Embodied Empath

Hello everyone,

On todays episode we meet Tara Jackson author of the book Embodied – A self-care guide for sensitive souls.

Tara is a holistic wellbeing coach who works with highly sensitive people and empaths to help them with seasonal and cyclical self-care, self-love, reconnecting with themselves and being fully embodied, so they can thrive in today’s world.

And in this episode we go deep into the area of addicitve drugs and behaviours that take empaths away from their centre. 

This episode is a good one. Some of the points we cover:

  • How unprocessed grief and emotions from early childhood trauma can result in drug dependancies
  • Different types of addictions, drugs and the suprisingly cultural acceptance of some addictive behaviours over others
  • How shame around addictions can stop us from accessing support
  • Our own personal experiences with drugs and addictive behaviours – pay attention to how Tara’s reactions to the more harder drugs was different to mine.
  • why we are choosing a sober life over the wince culture in our society
  • the difference between compulsive behaviours and inspired action
  • what self care, self love and staying embodied looks like o a practical daily basis
  • The true reason for addictions
  • Food as a tool for self care over self punishment
  • what you need to know to start the changes you desire now

Tara’s website


Tara’s book

other resources mentioned:

Gabor Mate’s website.

Plus search youtube for Gabor Mate and addictions

Talk to Frank

Great resource for real life information about drugs and recovery (the anti dote to the failed 80”s UK Campaign of Just Say No)

Smart Recovery

A UK based alternative to AA with online meetings of support. 

This Naked Mind

Brilliant book about the true nature of alcohol and how freeing and joyful a sober life is. 


I’d love to know your thoughts, experiences or other tools that support your well being in this area.

How you help evolve mass consciousness. A thankyou.

How you help evolve mass consciousness. A thankyou.

Hey there.

I recorded an audio for you today and although it’s going out via the podcast, there’s no intro music or anything. 

It’s 9mins long and I wanted it to be an intimate converstation between us.

This week in a channeling session, something new happened. I witnessed the birth of a new belief. I saw the energy as it happened and it took my breath away. More importantly, I want to share with you today, how this relates to you having a positive impact on the elevation of mass consciousness.

So, pop on the audio now or read the transcription now and pause. Let it sink in. Let the message wrap it arms around your worth and expand it.

If you’re moved to, I’d love to hear from you in the comments. 

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Hi, it’s Cara from Cara wilde.com.

And I’m not going to put this as part of the podcast or as a solo podcast. It just doesn’t feel right. So for now, I just wanted to connect with you and to talk to you with my voice via audio as well as by words. And hello, how are you?

Good to be with you today and thanks for letting me take up some space in hot can feel like a crazy busy life. Right.

And I wanted to offer you a thought today. So something new happened on a challenge session this week, something new for me as a channel and even though it’s from a private channeling session,

It relates to you as well. I wanted to let you know about it.

Those of you that have experienced my challening sessions know that I see the energy as well as feel it

When I am blended with the ancients and when I used to work with the Aurora, it’s always the same. And over the past eight years of really honing my skills as a channel and being really at ease with being a channel – it  is one of the easiest things for me to do in this world. I really understand what it is that I’m seeing and the different ways that my brain interprets the energies of the person system if you are having a session with me.

And the other day,

something really new happened, and I was witness to the birth of a new belief.

And I saw it as it happened.

In real time, so the client was listening to guidance from the Ancients, the Ancients, were giving reframe, after reframe, and some energetic work was happening between the two of them, and I was witnessing it.

And as that bridge between me and the non physical, I just get to hang out in the middle,  my personality self just gets to hang out in the middle in the space between the Ancients and a client and I can watch shifts  unfold.

So they were having this beautiful exchange. This client that is very, very focused on being a positive presence in this world or loving presence in this world a presence of unconditional love, while still enjoying their own life.

And the ancients were helping them to build up a really

Solid sense of themselves from a loving perspective. And so they were starting to have thoughts about themselves that they’ve never had before. And there was just this one moment, just this one moment where there was this

Aha. And then I saw this burst of energy and this new belief start to exist within the energy framework of the client. I haven’t got the words really. And it was, I was like witnessing a new birth, it was so sacred and wonderful. And then the client felt it,  the A’s acknowledged it, and then it grew even more. And it was just this wonderful unfolding of human nature. And that’s the bit that I wanted to share with you

was the bit that I shared with the client afterwards because I always share anything that I see.

What I want to say to you is, thank you for doing this work, for doing the inner work for

I don’t know what to call it  – sometimes it’s called being at the leading edge of thought. Aurora taught me a long time ago about those of us that are here to create new thoughts.

And I don’t know about you, but I feel like a complete novice in that really still, creating new thoughts. Like Byron Katie says there are no new thoughts.

You know, there are new no new stressful for us. We’ve all thought them a billion times they’re in the collective they’re easy to bump into. It’s like walking down the street thinking “negative thoughts, get them off me stressful thoughts, get them off me!”.

But we’re here to create new thoughts to and, you know, what does that actually mean? What does that look like? And I was thinking on my walk this morning, what new beliefs and new thoughts do I want to have about my life and was being really playful with that. 

And so, like you, I’m invested in being a loving presence in this earth, I’m totally up for creating a heaven on earth with source energy. So focused on finding solutions and also not being in denial about some of the more difficult processes we go through as human beings.

So, like you, I am constantly evolving and like you, I’m like this client, you know, you’re adding new thoughts to the collective. Every time you transform something about yourself, you’re offering that opportunity to mass consciousness and the collectiveness and you make it so much more easily accessible to the next person.

And I want you to really take a moment in your day to listen to this now, to let that sink in about how valuable a contribution that is to humankind,

In a world where the loud ones get the attention in a world where we’re conditioned to believe that we earn our way through our material possessions.

It’s good to remember the quieter ones. You know, the quieter ones like us that that actually need a stronger voice, actually need to be taking up more space in this world and that contribute through living with more meaning. more satisfaction and adding to the collective joy and the collective possibilities and how we want to really make a difference and to live in a more heart centred and connected way.

Take a moment that, you know, I’m, and let me be clear, I’m totally up for material possessions. I like money. I like having a decent house a decent standard of living. I want to be able to follow my dreams. You know, I’m not suggesting that we live as martyrs. That is not unconditional love. That’s not love. That’s sacrifice.

But for those of us that may not have acquired that yet, or don’t live with that when the entire focus in a world that tells us that we’re not good enough unless we’ve got the latest thing or we’ve got the biggest house or the fastest car. Just wanted to really thank you. Thank you and I appreciate the inner work that you do that then becomes available for other people in mass consciousness.

and makes it easier for the people to think in more loving ways about themselves, more loving ways about the world. And that’s what we need. That’s what we are creating.

This world needs more compassion. This world needs more kindness. This world needs more respect. So thank you for doing that work. And I really hope you honour that about yourself today. And really value that connection between the inner and the outer and how important that is.

So that’s it. That’s what I wanted to give you a pause for reflection today. I hope this message finds you well. And thank you again, for giving me space in your life today. That’s very precious.

Bye for now.

The Way of the Sensitive Ep 27: Healing with Sound

The Way of the Sensitive Ep 27: Healing with Sound

Today’s podcast guest is a dear friend of mine Anni Laine.

Anni is a therapeutic sound healer and on today’s podcast we discuss:

What sound therapy is and how it works

How we don’t have to search for our purpose and what to do instead when we want to live our Soul purpose for this lifetime

How sound therapy works directly on the nervous system, specifically the Vagus nerve and what that means for health and wellbeing

How sound healing leads to deep rest

How to reconnect with your body  – especially if you feel like you live from “the neck up!” 😉

and more.


About Anni

Anni Laine, Musical Mage and therapeutic sound practitioner, and helps working parents who feel drained and are looking for more space and energy for what’s really important in their lives.

She uses therapeutic music and healing sound vibrations both to help her clients regulate the nervous system and to invite them to find answers deep in themselves, as she believes we all already have what we need to release extra burdens and find our way back to joy. Anni’s passion is to guide you on your journey to access that power.

Leave a comment and let me know your thoughts.

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Podcast Episode ~ 26 Restful Sleep

Podcast Episode ~ 26 Restful Sleep

Today’s podcast is a the very skilled Sondra Kornblatt from Restful Insomnia. I meet Sondra in a business group we both belong to and we quickly became friends.  I know that many of you struggle with good quality sleep in someway and I wanted Sondra to come and share her very unique approach to insomnia and sleep.

More about Sondra

Sondra Kornblatt helps people grappling with insomnia and exhaustion who want to finally feel rested enough to know and go after their dreams. She helps people shift their relationships with the mind, body, emotions and more, so they can rest into who they really are (and welcome sleep). She is the author of four books on sleep, brain function, and energy boosting. And she is a a trained life and sleep coach, with a degree in community service/ counseling. Her approach combines many disciplines, including meditation, yoga, body work, and hypnosis. Sondra is grateful that she can help her clients and students stop struggling at night and feel aligned with their worlds during the day.

You can find her on her website here and facebook page here 

Some of what we discussed:

  • Reframing how we view and approach sleep so that a restful night is more possible (this was a major takeaway for me!)
  • Our relationship to our minds, body, life and how that effects our ability to sleep
  • How to manage waking up with anxiety at 2am in a morning
  • What might be stopping us from getting off to sleep in the first place
  • How your day time life affects your nighttime rest
  • Creative ways of approaching bedtime and any routines. 
  • Bringing the fun back into sleep

Join us for deeper discussions

Join us on the free facebook here to dive deeper into discussions with the host. 

The Way of the Sensitive – Episode 24. – Holly Worton

The Way of the Sensitive – Episode 24. – Holly Worton

In this podcast conversation with Holly Worton we talk about:

  • What is re-wilding or un-taming and why might you want to do this?
  • How being in the wild can help you untame
  • How Nature can help you to get to know yourself
  • What we’ve learned from Nature about re-wilding
  • Getting lost in the outdoors and what that’s taught us
  • How wild nature speaks to us
  • What we can learn from building relationships with Nature
  • How to work with stone circles in a different way
  • What we’ve learned about resilience and trust from our experiences in Nature
  • What we’ve done when things went wrong – and what we might do differently next time
  • How you can connect with Nature to work with Spirit
  • How to work with portals to connect with other dimensions, energies, etc.
  • How Nature can also serve as a pathway to Oneness
  • How to reconnect to Oneness by building our relationship with Nature

You can find Hollys’ website and book here 

f you want to sign up for Cara’s Live Channel Your Guide Course mentioned in the podcast you can find details here:

The Way of the Sensitive ~ Episode 23: Releasing the Weight of Weight

The Way of the Sensitive ~ Episode 23: Releasing the Weight of Weight

Welcome to this week’s episode where I’m joined by Michelle McClintock to talk about releasing the weight of weight. 

Ah, such a rich, potent topic. I’m so passionate about this topic. 

I feel angry about the diet industry and how a women’s body can really start to feel like it belongs to everyone but her! 

In today’s episode we talk about: 

  • Michelle’s own personal journey with carrying more weight than she wanted to, what happened to cause her to question her relationship with food and decide to lose weight. 
  • What it means to work with the energy of the weight.
  • The real issue around deprivation (it’s not food). 
  • What dilemmas we, as women, face about weight loss and how to manage them 
  • How different food cravings can point to very specific emotions. 
  • The many reasons why we may decide to carry extra weight…and more….

I’d love to hear your own journeys with this topic if it feels good for you to share and any insights you found useful – I might do some follow up topics on food and weight because this is a HUGE area for many of us.


The Energy of Weight Program

Michelle McClintock is an Intuitive Coach & Pranic Healer with a mission to put women on their unique path to living a happier and more harmonious life. 

She specializes in working with women who are burnt out, stressed out and want to find joy, let go of the past, release weight, gain clarity, feel better, and finally feel free from the blocks that have been holding them back. These blocks can show up as excess weight, physical and emotional pain, relationship and career challenges, and so much more.

In her practice, she draws on her many years of healing her own disordered eating, depression, anxiety and physical pain to guide women through understanding why they are holding onto excess weight that does not respond to their efforts to release it. Healing from the inside out gets to the root cause to help women release the old thought patterns, blocks and negative energy that is holding them back from truly finding happiness and harmony; and finally releasing the weight for good.

She attended the Institute of Integrative Nutrition and is a proud member of the American Association of Drugless Practitioners. She received her Pranic Healing training from the Pranic Healing Institute and has incorporated healing into all of her client and group programs.

In her quest to help women shift their lives after trauma, she received her Intuitive Intelligence Certification and learned how to help women experience profound healing from the effects of trauma. She believes that all women can heal and all women deserve to live a life where they feel the freedom to breath and be themselves.   

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The Way of the Sensitive Ep-22: Dylan Spradlin

The Way of the Sensitive Ep-22: Dylan Spradlin

Welcome back!

Today’s podcast is the first in a long time and today’s guest was an absolute blast.

Dylan Spradlin is a parenting and life coach and in today’s episode, we discussed the power of play, specifically:

  • Why adults find play so challenging and how to change that
  • How to play with younger children to teens can deepen communication and create sacred relationships
  • How to make play easier to fit into your daily lives as a parent
  • Why play is so powerful and important.

As a parent to a teen and tween, I found this conversation so, so helpful and have already started to implement some of Dylan’s ideas into our family routine.

Even if you are not in a relationship with children, or don’t think it’s a subject that is relevant for you, I encourage you to watch Dylan as she is the embodiment of play and a demonstration of how to be more at ease with ourselves.


Dylan has spent over 30 years helping families and advocating for children and healthy development. Her many roles have included  preschool teacher, birth doula, trauma therapist, and child and family play therapist, and she currently works as as a parenting and life coach to help families who are struggling with overwhelm and tension, find playful and sacred interactions together. She is an advocate of self-directed learning, risky play, allowing kids to play independently from adults in safe, unstructured environments – especially in nature. At the same time, she helps parents understand the value of playing together as a method of communication, growing trust and connection in relationships, and how to find that balance in their family. She loves Pippi Longstocking, Mermaids, Marvel, and Buffy the Vampire Slayer. In her off time, you can find her playing on stage in the community theater.

Link to program starting 12/2/2019: 


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How you help evolve mass consciousness. A thankyou.

The Way of The Sensitive – Relaunch

 Here’s a short solo episode to relaunch the podcast. I cover:Why I took a break for nearly a year and what that means for you.Info about The Love Notes if you don’t know.How I’m stopping offering one-off sessions with The Ancients after 2nd Feb. Book now if you have been wanting to have a conversation with them.An invitation for you to have a say in what topics are covered in future podcasts.
The Way of the Sensitive – Responding to the pain of mass conscious as a skilled empath

The Way of the Sensitive – Responding to the pain of mass conscious as a skilled empath

  • Are you pained by world events?
  • Are you also angry at being told if you don’t speak out you aren’t being spiritual?
  • Are you wondering how to manage your empath ability to feel the pain in mass consciousness and know what the hell to do with it all?
  • Are you convinced that there must be a more gentle and empowering way to respond but lost as to what that looks like?

Well, this message from Then Ancients is for you. Learn how a skilled empath and Lemurian can respond to world events and how to do this in a way that feels authentic and honours your own truth around reality creation.

“As skilled empaths and Lemurians, you are here to create new thought” The Ancients.

In Love

Cara Wilde